Dr. Tom Rohrer

Welcome to tomroher.com

Let today be the day that you reach out and take your first step towards:

  • Resolving the issues that cause your unhappiness and pain!
  • Clarifying and moving towards the life that you want!
  • Becoming all that you want to be!

As a therapist focused on holistic solutions, my goal is to help you uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. Though we cannot change complicated situations of the past, we can work together to understand those circumstances and sort out the challenges in your life. By applying holistic therapy and coaching approaches and techniques, we will unearth long-standing behavior patterns or negative perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

Conveniently located in Walnut Creek, California, it is the intent of my practice to provide an environment where my clients feel safe and cared about. A place that supports the release of your pain and suffering and the achievement of your goals and dreams.

I am always humbled by my client’s willingness to open up and allow me to see their pain and share their dreams. I am blessed to have found and to be able to offer very effective resources to help my clients heal, grow and succeed.

For over four decades I have helped my clients to improve their lives by:

  • Learning about their style and patterns
  • Looking directly at, processing, and dealing their issues
  • Using their personal strengths
  • Developing their emotional skills
  • Improving their ability to problem solve and deal with stress
  • Using their challenges to grow and become more and better
  • Opening up to who they are and creating a full life

Everyone wants his or her issues to improve or go away. These people will benefit from psychotherapy to help them deal with their serious, deeper, or historical issues. Most people have goals and dreams that they want to achieve. Many people will find coaching very effective for removing blocks, resolving common issues and creating a foundation that will support the creation of the life that they want.

My approach to therapy is “holistic”: behavioral, brain-based, emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, social, etc. Due to the length of my career, I have worked with most human issues.

I offer psychotherapy and coaching to:

  • Individuals
  • Couples
  • Groups: Coaching only

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Here’s a simple question: How do you know if counseling is really going to be effective?
I take this question seriously.
It’s one of the reasons I offer a FREE phone consultation.

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Addiction Recovery

The main focus of my professional career has been addiction treatment, specifically alcohol and drug addiction treatment. I have also worked with a range of addictions, such as food, gambling, sex, and smoking.

All addictions may look different on the surface, but they involve a similar brain addiction. The brain neurotransmitter Dopamine gets spiked when an abusing or addicted person is “triggered” to use, gets stressed, or uses. This is true whether the addiction is to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or acting out sexually. It’s likely that future research will show other addictions also have this Dopamine connection. After a few months of recovery from any addiction, the journey of recovery is pretty much the same for all addictions.

I have written a book to help on your journey. Thriving Beyond Addiction is the most unique, complete how-to guide about recovery. With encouragement and some humor, it offers you facts, resources, and wisdom about recovery in a unique, user-friendly style. Its larger type, in-line illustrations and text boxes, makes it comfortable to read. It will be valuable whether you skim it or study every section. You will benefit from this book if whether you are just starting your journey or are well down your path.

Thriving Beyond Addiction is for the people who can admit that have a substance abuse or behavior addiction and are ready to do something about it. When you are ready to stop your negative behaviors, you’ll realize that recovery is not about what you are giving up; it’s about what you are gaining. This book will explain every aspect of how to do it and help you clarify what you want your recovery to be.

Thriving Beyond Addiction encourages YOU to move past your substance or behavioral addiction(s) and onto living your

Thriving Beyond Addiction


Most people want to be in a connected, intimate, romantic relationship, yet most of those people struggle around doing so. This is sad, as an intimate partnership is one of the greatest experiences most of us can have. People struggle due to the:

Fear of:

  • Emotional Intimacy
  • Loss of Self
  • Loss of the Partner: leaving or death

Inability to:

  • Apologize or Forgive
  • Trust or Bond
  • Deal with the Intensity
  • Difficulty in expressing Affection

Lack of:

  • Separation-Individuation
  • Knowledge: no role models
  • Non-Completion of a Past Relationship(s)
  • Personal Insight
  • Other Severe Distractions

Personal Issues:

  • Addictions
  • Poor Boundary
  • Personality Style
  • Poor Self Image
  • Separation-Individuation

The question is, do you (and your partner) see enough in the other person and want your relationship enough, to do what it takes to be create a desirable relationship?

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Personal Patterns that Undermine the Relationship:

  • Avoidance
  • Abuse: verbal, emotional, physical
  • Beliefs: about self or relationships
  • Criticalness or Blame
  • Defensiveness
  • Immaturity
  • Poor Judgment
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Lying
  • Perfectionism
  • Personal Space
  • Rigidness
  • Unwillingness

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Understand that in most relationships:

  • Issue that can be resolved
  • Your desirable personal traits can be embraced
  • The essential resources can be found


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